Getting a divorce can be one of the most stressful experiences in a person’s life. But, just like all difficult situations, we tend to come out of them with more understanding of ourselves and the world around us. In the case of divorce, we can even move become healthier, if we choose, and make improvements that bring us to an even happier future.
There will be no doubt a period of time where emotions will range from despair, fear, anger, relief, hope and happiness. And, these emotions will come and go, for an undetermined amount of time. The circumstances around the divorce, such as who initiated the divorce, whether or not there are children involved, and if a business or property is involved.
There’s a saying that we can choose to become bitter, or we can choose to become better. We hope you choose the second option and want to offer these 6 tips to help you do just that.
Establish New Routines. There will be a lot of changes with your divorce. You may be moving into a new residence and adjusting childcare schedules which may or may not impact your financial situation. Establishing new routines will help you to create a new normal, and reduce stress.
Set a Few Goals. Divorce causes a lot of people to reflect on what happened and even who they are and what they are doing with their lives, including how they want the future to look. Take some time to reflect gently on the situation and set some goals for things that will build you up and move you the direction of your desired future.
Get Support. To help you move through and past your divorce, you may need outside support such as from a therapist or doctor, who may or may not suggest medication. It is not uncommon to feel sad or even depressed, but if that is impacting your ability to work or enjoy life, especially if you become suicidal, get help.
Focus on the Positive Future. Rather than staying stuck in the past (and even ugly present moments), take time to dream about a positive future. By focusing on the positive, you can support overcoming this with a brighter attitude. Do little things every day support joyfulness, whether a hobby, grabbing a drink with a friend, taking a long bath, or going on a walk with the dog.
Take the High Road. Commit to not speaking poorly about your ex in front of your children. There will be times that your frustration can be very high, after all, divorce is very emotional. Choose to take the high road and keep the conflict away from the kids – they need you more than ever to help them also go through this big change. Get them the support they need as well.
Accept that Things Have Changed. Changes to relationships of all kinds can shift during a divorce. Mutual friends may “pick a side”, in-laws may disconnect from you, and you may have more, or less, time with your children. Some changes you will experience right away, and others will develop. Accept the things you can’t change and, if it’s important, know when to fight or let it go.
Simon Law Group has been serving the greater Phoenix, Arizona as a divorce law firm for over 20 years. We are here to help you have a successful, fair divorce so you can begin to move on with your new life. Start with a free consultation today at 480-745-2450, and remember, experience matters.
